The Codes

The real codes of wealthy circles: dress, the table, the invitation, the topics that open doors and the ones that close them for good.

This section decodes the two affluent worlds, which do not share the same rules: a behavior that makes you attractive in one disqualifies you in the other. Start with the six markers that distinguish old money from new money (how he talks about money, the watch, the shoes, the answer to “what do you do?”, how he treats staff, vacations), and how to behave in each world.

Then read what the online old money aesthetic gets right and what it gets wrong, and how a woman over 40 can carry the real thing without looking like she is in costume.

Where to start
Old Money vs New Money: The 6 Markers: two codes, and how to tell which one applies.
The Old Money Aesthetic: What It Gets Right and Wrong: the trend, decoded for women over 40.